This is the first time I have publicly posted images of my natural hair!
I would say I am closer to loving my hair but not yet ready to ditch my weave! I hope you enjoy my story about how I got to this point and my plans for 2016 hair care.
As it stands I officially abandoned relaxing my hair December 2013. I had relaxed my hair for many years (probably from the age of 7 which is quite young!). When I was younger the length of my hair was decent – not too long but not too short. Just good enough for a little black girl.
Everything went downhill when my parents allowed me to dye my hair. My hair became very thin and started breaking rapidly. I decided in 2009 that it was best to cut my hair and start again. This was a fun but bitter sweet experience because I knew it would be a long time before my hair returned to how it was. The problem was I lacked patience and also realised that relaxing my hair probably wasn’t the best things. I stumbled across a number of youtubers who convinced me that ‘transitioning’ was the way forward!.
From January 2014 I decided to ‘transition’ – but my patience didn’t last very long and in April I did the big chop!! To my disappointment I expected to have a TWA that looked cute and sexy but I ended up looking like Wezley Snipes. So I had no choice but to wear wigs following my big chop.
When I saw what my hair actually looked like, and that I was the furthest thing from having 4A or 4B hair, I really regretted my decision. I knew I definitely wasn’t going to relax my hair again so my next goal was to grow my hair as quickly as possible. Dealing with my hair in the early stages was fun. I would wash it once a week, use different oils and treatment methods and I saw that my hair was growing at a steady rate. Like all things, nothing lasts forever – and the enthusiasm I had for my hair and its upkeep waned.
Unfortunately my hair has not grown to the length I would have expected in 2 years.The primary reason is because (again due to my lack of patience) I became fed up with wigs, and although I still wasn’t comfortable with wearing my natural hair, I decided to try new hairstyles which required heat and straightening. These hair styles have not only left me with heat damage in the front and back of my hair but also meant that I didn’t moisturise and condition my hair as much as I should have.
Advice for anyone thinking of transitioning or doing the big chop:
- Be prepared for some hard work!
- Be patient
- Don’t let youtube and blogs make you become disillusioned with the potential texture of your hair. We all long for a 4A/4B hair type but the reality is yours could be 4D (if that even exists lol). Understand the different hair textures and if you can’t tell what hair texture you have, use members of your family as a point of reference (i.e. what is you fathers hair texture like!)
- Be realistic
- Don’t be like me and starve your hair of moisture!
- Remember your hair will continually change over time so your methods and techniques of hair treatment will definitely have to change accordingly.
My most important piece of advice is to not get disheartened by the opinion of others. If you have decided that you want to go natural, accept and embrace this decision. Don’t let negative opinions – especially those from MEN – change how you feel about yourself or about your hair.
Join the 6 month hair growth challenge
Going forward I hope to start the 6 month hair growth challenge (however due to life situations I will be starting this in February). I encourage many others – whether you are natural or relaxed – to embark on the same journey. I will be doing a post soon to show you what will be in my challenge kit.
Some of my favourite wig moments!
Prinny Rae x
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